This is a post about why I regretted our gender reveal party. Please don’t tell my mother (the extraordinary woman who put the whole party together)
Don’t get me wrong. The party was AMAZING.
From the decorations, to the food, the reveal, everything was perfect and so much fun.
A gender reveal party is such a great way to celebrate your baby with your friends and family, and of course, find out your baby’s gender!
Today there are so many gender reveal party ideas to choose from. I’m not knocking gender reveal parties at all. I still love them and I want to have another one for our next baby.
However, I did have a regret about ours and I want to share that with you so you can consider it before your party.
Why I Regretted Our Gender Reveal Party
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What we did
At our ultrasound we made it very clear that we did not want to be told the gender.
But instead, asked for her to write it down and seal it in an envelope.
Not opening that envelope was one of the hardest things I have ever had to resist.
Now, we live in Massachusetts and my family lives in New York.
So, I had to mail that envelope to my mother. She had to bring it to a bakery and instruct them to fill cupcakes with pink frosting if it’s a girl and blue frosting if it’s a boy, with white frosting on top so we couldn’t see.
If you want to do this reveal make it very clear that everyone in the bakery knows not to tell whoever is picking up the cupcake what color is inside.
As obvious as it may seem, I have read one sad story online of a bakery worker slipping up. Saying something along the lines of here’s your cake with the pink cream inside.
Luckily that did not happen to us.
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How it went
Like I said, the party was AMAZING.
My mother is a saint and she gets so excited. She goes above and beyond for me and I love her to death. And of course other family members helped too and I just feel so blessed to have these wonderful people in my life.
Once everyone had arrived Devin and I each had a cupcake and our guests were standing on the lawn holding pink and blue balloons.
They were instructed to let go of the pink balloons if they saw blue frosting, or let go of the blue balloons if they saw pink frosting so our photographer could get a picture of all pink or all blue balloons.
As you can see, with the excitement of the reveal itself there was confusion with the balloon situation.
But that wasn’t the regret, I actually loved that part.
When I look at this picture I just laugh because it brings me back to that moment and everyone’s reactions were just priceless.
Devin and I both bit into our cupcakes at the same time and saw the pink frosting!
So everything went perfectly. Just as planned.
After the reveal we ate great food and everyone was talking about our future with our little baby girl and giving us advice.
It was a lot of fun.
So what is there to regret?
Well, as you can probably guess by mom and dads blue shirts, we were guessing boy.
I thought I had very good mothers intuition. I just had the strongest feeling that we were going to have a boy first.
For the first five months of the pregnancy we had it in our minds and our thoughts about the future that we were going to have a son.
We would even talk about him and use the name we picked out when we did.
Of course we knew there was a 50/50 chance and we could be wrong. We talked about that and how we might feel and we both said that as much as we would like to have a boy first we really didn’t care either way.
We weren’t disappointed that we were having a girl.
I’ll never admit to that because it’s not true, I was excited.
But there was this feeling, it’s hard to explain but if I had to give it a name I guess I would say loss.
Im sure my pregnancy hormones had me a little emotional but as excited as I was that we were going to have a girl I also felt like I was saying goodbye to the boy I thought we were having.
I won’t speak for Devin but I remember him explaining having a weird feeling on our ride home that was similar to mine.
So I would say our regret was…
Not finding out the gender before the party.
I would never take back the party but I wish Devin and I had found out at the ultrasound and threw the party to reveal the surprise to our friends and family.
It being my first pregnancy I just didn’t know that in that moment, when we find out, I didn’t want to be in front of a group of people.
For us, I feel like it was a private moment we should have shared, just the two of us in the doctor’s office.
That way we would have had time to wrap our heads around it together and sort out or emotions, instead of feeling like we were on a stage.
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Plans for next time
I have to say it again, I loved my gender reveal party.
I definitely want to have another one. Since I don’t live close to my family I jump at any opportunity for us all to get together.
Next time though I definitely think Devin and I will find out at the ultrasound, excluding us from the surprise.
So, just something to think about if you’re thinking about having a gender reveal party.
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